Tom Hayes passed away at the age of 88. He is predeceased by his wife of 60 years, Norma Jean
Hayes (Roberts), and their son Thomas John Hayes, III. He is survived by his three children;
Melissa (Carl) Otten, Timothy (Karen) Hayes, Jennifer (Dennis) Lawler, eight grandchildren and
two granddaughters in law. He is also survived by his three brothers; Paul Hayes, David Hayes,
Dennis Hayes, his sister Ruth Haas, and many nieces and nephews. Tom was born in Rockville
Centre, New York and grew up in Valley Stream and Bellmore. He graduated from Hofstra
University where he played football, lacrosse, and was a member of the Crown & Lance
fraternity. He entered the Marines after college and during his tenure married “Nonie” in 1954.
He achieved great success as a Financial Advisor, but what he loved the most was spending time
with his family and friends, dancing, singing, playing guitar, and getting a good workout in. He
had strong Catholic faith and enjoyed starting most days by attending Mass. After raising their
family in Huntington/Greenlawn, they moved to Head of the Harbor where they enjoyed several
more years before moving to Connecticut. He was a kind, humble and genuine man, as well as a
great friend, brother, son, husband, uncle, Dad and Papa. Words cannot describe how much he’ll
Visitation will be held at St. James Funeral Home, 829 Middle Country Rd, Saint James, NY
from 4-8pm on Sunday, September 29th
. From 7-8pm remembrances will be shared. A funeral
Mass will be held at 10am on Monday, September 30th
at Saints Philip and James Roman
Catholic Church, 454 Route 25A, St. James, NY, followed by interment at Calverton National
Cemetery. I lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to the Alzheimer’s Association.
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