Mary T. McDonough

Mary Theresa McDonough (née Crowley) of Smithtown, NY passed away peacefully at the home she had built with her husband 52 years ago and where they raised their five children. She left this mortal life to be with the Lord on Friday, December 4, 2020 surrounded by three generations of her offspring at her side. She was preceded in death by the love of her life and husband of 57 years of “combat” (as they lovingly referred to their marriage), Thomas E. McDonough in 2011.

Mary and Tom were neighbors when growing up on 219th St in Queens Village, New York and met each other when she was four years old and he was eight. 

Mary was born on August 14, 1931 to John J. Crowley and Helen V. (O’Donnell) Crowley. She was the second of four children and the sister of her three very protective brothers, John, Thomas, and James Crowley.  She learned to play piano as a young girl and was invited to play at Carnegie Hall as a young adult. She continued to play as a hobby throughout her life.

Mary and Tom were married in Queens Village on May 29, 1954. Together, they lovingly raised five children- Thomas E McDonough, Jr of St. James, Terri L. Genova (Michael) of Smithtown, Laura A. Broderick (Dennis) of Sayville, Eileen M. Casey (Kevin) of St. James, and Mary T. McAleese (Bob) of Stafford, VA.

Mary was the adoring and beloved grandmother of 16 grandchildren: Robert McDonough (Tommy), Kevin Casey (Helen), Christopher Devlin, Jennifer McCormack (Tommy), Shannon Kogel (Devin), Michael Genova Jr., Courtney Casey, Lindsey Olmstead (Lenny), Rosemary McDonough, Timothy Genova, Mary Dae McDonough, Grace McDonough, James Casey, Charles McDonough, Ashley McAleese, and Bailey McAleese.

She was also the beloved great-grandmother of Cameron, Elisabeth, Ava, Callen, Isabella, and Ronan.

Mary was preceded in death by her two brothers John J. Crowley, Jr and his wife Norma of Patchogue, Thomas E. Crowley and his wife Lydia of Hampton Bays, and survived by her youngest brother James F. Crowley and his wife Joan of Huntington Beach, CA. She was also the beloved aunt to many nieces and nephews who she was so proud of and always doted over.

Mary proudly worked at the Brookhaven Service Center of the IRS as a manager for 20 years before her retirement in 1994. 

She was a hilarious woman with an amazing sense of humor. She was tough, always spoke her mind, but carried herself with class and dignity. She will be sorely missed by many friends and countless loved ones. We will never forget her.

In lieu of flowers, please feel free to send donations in her honor to Good Shepherd Hospice, 200 Belle Terre Rd., Port Jefferson, NY. 11777. 

Our family would like to express our deep thanks and appreciation to all the unending support we’ve received from friends and loved ones throughout the past few weeks. 

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